A Step by Step Wedding Guide for New Wedding Photographers


Written to help (or scare) new wedding photographers
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By Dwain Cox www.photobox54.com

So you want to be a wedding photographer.  Your friends are always complementing you on your photographs of vacations and family reunions and your thinking, “why not.”  “I went to a wedding once, what’s the big deal?  I have a great camera (the reviews said so) a good flash and I really would like a piece of those wedding budget $$$.”     

Note and Disclaimer:  These are my notes based on my limited experience, successes and mistakes and are in no way meant to be an accurate reflection of all weddings.  Your camera settings should be based on your style and technique and may vary from the ones used here. I typically don’t use an assistant but always wish I did. Any names used are purely fictional and should not be compared to anyone actually seen doing these activities at a wedding I’ve shot.I have learned more about my camera, lighting, exposure and photography in general, by shooting weddings than any other photographic endeavor. I shoot with Canon equipment.

Pre Wedding:

Preparing the Photographer:  This may sound silly, but do you know how to shoot with your camera in Manual Mode? Do you understand how to adjust for ambient light while using the flash?  Do you know the maximum effective distance of your flash?  Do you understand how the aperture affects the amount of light available from the flash?  Do you know how to shoot with your flash in Manual Mode? 

If you answered no to any of these questions, quick, call the bride and tell her to get someone else.  As a wedding photographer, you will need to know how to do all of the above, and, do them all at the same time…quickly, changing settings to capture rapidly moving subjects doing once in a lifetime activities.  Being a wedding photographer is one of the most difficult jobs a photographer can do. If you want your photographs to look much better than Uncle Henrys, you should be much better than Uncle Henry…or anyone else in the room.  After all, they are paying you to get the Pro shots.

On this note, you get what you pay for.  So, if this wedding is your first and the bride knows it, and the money is low, so is the expectation of the bride, so some of the pressure is off.  Your expectation should always be much higher than the brides if your goal is to be a pro?  What is your “Plan B” if you get sick or have a family emergency? A prayer is good but the bride may not be the forgiving kind.  Have a second camera and someone who can use it on stand by.  Legal situations (as in being the Defendant) should be avoided.

Preparing your Equipment:  You’ve saved a lot of money and bought expensive equipment with all the bells and whistles for the creative photography you want to do.  Are all of the settings still in Auto?  If this is your plan, Uncle Henry will get better shots than you because he is family and everyone will have genuine smiles and relaxed body posture for his pictures with his $200 point and shoot camera, (in auto everything.)  You can do better, you have to do better. 

You need to be consistent with your exposures and know why the exposure came out the way it did, make an adjustment and not have one of the other auto camera settings cancel out your change.  Your camera has several systems continuously evaluating every shot and each making decisions either independent or in conjunction with the others. This ensures someone with little or no knowledge of exposure should have a fairly high rate of success as long as they shoot subjects within the limits of the camera’s auto settings. 

Weddings typically go outside these limits. Every time you press down on the shutter release, the camera’s computer is going through its checklist based on the settings you have chosen. It sets the exposure based on what’s in the target area of the current metering mode. This could be a black tux, a white dress or anything in between.  What about the rest of the frame, peoples faces, the background, the foreground?

The flash uses the distance to the subject and the reflected light to judge exposure. White is much more reflective than black, the flash tends to underexpose if a lot of white is in the frame. It’s very frustrating to make a change and the exposure stays the same.  I turn off all Auto features on the camera so when I make a change, I know what to expect.  I also put the flash in Manual for certain types of shots, because it works better. If I’m using flash indoors, I set the Color Balance to Flash.

When shooting ambient light without flash, I use either the Tungsten or Fluorescent settings and tune the color if time allows (usually not).  The auto color balance re-evaluates every shot based on the colors in the frame and is not consistent.  Yes it’s a lot of changes but I feel obligated to do my best for every shot, every condition.

Manual is good.  Auto is too confusing. Have lots of fresh batteries for your flash unit and camera.  Some shots will need to be back to back, less than 3 seconds apart.  Do you know your flash recycle time at full power, half power, with fresh batteries, batteries after 100 shots?  Format all of your memory cards. Check your camera settings, ISO (200), shooting mode (M), color balance compensation (0), exposure compensation (0), flash compensation (0), lenses in auto focus, glass clean, hot shoe and battery contacts clean. Have a spare camera body, flash, off camera cord for flash, more than one lens.  These setting are starting points and will all change several times during the wedding.

Setting the Contract:  Have a meeting with the bride and groom and review exactly what you will and will not be providing.  Agree on the price, the retainer and when the payments should be made. Agree on the place and time that you will be needed.  The receptions hardly ever end on time so you may want to add a per hour fee incase they want to go all night.  Make a written contract.  Get this and the names, home phone, work and cell phone numbers of the B&G, the parents, coordinator and anyone else you may need to communicate with 1 day or 1 hour before the ceremony. 

The Rehearsal:  Don’t like surprises, be there. Especially at the smaller weddings and when there is no formal wedding coordinator (besides you).  You can make suggestions on how they enter and where they stand.  Chances are, this is the first wedding for most of them.  Ask the bride exactly what shots she wants during the ceremony.  Use a wedding shot list until you know what to shoot. As they take their positions, look to see where you can stand and suggest  where they should stand so you can get those shots they want.  You will need to choreograph your steps with theirs so you don’t get in the way or get blocked.  I walk through my steps of taking the photos while they are rehearsing walking down the isle and during the exit.  No surprises for me, none for them, that’s  the plan.  Also confer with the officiator on any rules they may have.  Sometimes you have to deal with the church wedding lady, be nice. For some of them, it’s their way or the highway.  Be Respectful of the rules and don’t tread where you shouldn’t.  Get all of this out of the way at the rehearsal or before the ceremony.  You can get some interior shots here while you have time. Get some close ups of stained glass or other areas of interest for the decorations section of the album.

Wedding Day:

The Brides Dressing Room: Some do, some don’t. Explain to the bride exactly what dressing room shots are; applying makeup, fixing the hair, fitting the veil, lacing up the dress, putting on the garter, mom helping the bride with the dress.  It’s usually a small room, bring a wide lens, be creative and use the mirrors.  If the walls and ceiling are white, use bounce flash to soften the light. Make the bride the most beautiful person there.  Cell phones are very handy to coordinate between the brides and grooms dressing rooms.

The Grooms Dressing Room: (Hopefully close to the brides dressing room or at least on the same floor of the hotel.) The guys are usually cutting up, trying to hid the fact that they have no idea how to put on a tux and it’s components.  Someone’s mom usually has to come in and help.  Good candid opportunities. Pose the guys trying to keep the groom from escaping or some other fun activity.  This is their one and only chance to be the primary subject of this whole affair.  It’s all about the bride after this.

Pre ceremony Candids: Get shots of the kids getting dressed, pinning on boutonnieres, the cake and reception setups, (get a good shot of the cake, sometimes they don’t make it to the reception).  Any spare time you have here, get some creative shots of the decorations. These can be used in collages or for CD and album covers. 

Pre Ceremony Formals: If you are planning to shoot some of the formals before the ceremony to save time between the ceremony and the reception, make sure, you get everyone’s solemn promise at the rehearsal to be at the location and dressed at exactly 1 hr and 15 minutes before the ceremony begins.  The guest will start arriving about 30 minutes prior and you want to be finished by then. That gives you about 45 minutes to get the Pre formals. 

The time may vary depending on how many groups you have and how many are late, (yes some will break the solemn promise). Get as many of the formals here as you can. Remember; keep the bride and groom out of each other’s sight.  Bride and bridesmaids, groomsmen, parents, Grand parents, aunts, uncles, flower girl and ring bearer.  Groom and bridesmaids, groomsmen, parents, Grand parents, aunts, uncles, flower girl and ring bearer.  These shots are usually a little less formal than the post ceremony so have some fun with the groups, let them clown around a little if time allows.

Set your shutter speed to capture the ambient lighting of the room.  Set your color balance to Flash. Set your camera on a tripod so the distance to the group doesn’t change. Set your flash to manual and adjust the aperture to get the correct exposure (look at your histogram, especially if your LCD screen brightness is adjustable.) If you move closer or away, change your aperture to correct the exposure. Set your flash zoom angle to cover the group.

Buy a couple of clear plastic drops incase no one brought one for the candles.  Most churches require protection of the carpet from the dripping candle wax and will not allow candles without the drops.  You could save the day by being prepared. Look around for rug runners or doormats.  A blue tarp is OK in emergencies, a camo or brown one matches more carpet colors. 

The Ceremony: Install fresh batteries NOW. Up until this point, you have been in charge of the timing between shots. The train is coming, start running or get off the track.  Your subjects will mostly be moving, check your shutter speed and step it up to 125 or just below your flash sync speed (you do know what that is, right?) Are you shooting jpg or RAW?  You may want to switch to RAW if you are not already there.  Up until now you could adjust and reshoot.  Now, there are no redo’s.  RAW will give you a redo in the digital darkroom for your exposure and color balance.  Don’t worry about changing the Color balance settings while shooting RAW. 

Remember your positions from the rehearsal? Go to number one now.  I try to be at the front to get the party members coming up the isle.  Grandparents will be escorted to their seats followed by the parents.  Are the mothers going to light the Unity candles? Make sure you are in a position to get this now if possible. (Slow down the shutter speed to get more ambient light from the candles) Don’t think you can always pose this after the ceremony, it’s a huge rush to get through the formals before the groomsmen start shedding their coats, ties and cummerbunds and head for the keg. 

Everyone should be walking down the isle at a slow pace allowing your fresh batteries to fully charge your flash before each shot. No problem. (reset your shutter speed to 125/sec) Get a shot of each bridesmaid and the maid of honor. Now the fun part, the very young ring bearer and the flower girl.  They were cranky at rehearsal, and now are pretty overwhelmed at all of the old people with wrinkled faces leaning into the isle to tell them where to go. It didn’t work at rehearsal so don’t expect them to make it all the way down the isle and look cute for your camera.  If the wedding and reception are in the same room and the grooms Chocolate cake is near the isle, it may be too much temptation for the ring bearer to over come.  It’s OK, you may get some really cute shots of the ring bearer looking up the brides dress or the flower girl taking a nap on the steps.  Be ready for anything.

Now, the wedding march begins and here comes the bride.  Get the first shot of the bride (I try for two if possible) as she enters the room.  You may have to move a little to get within flash range, or open the aperture, shoot, reset you aperture while returning to position #1  without bumping into Aunt Louise who just jumped into the isle to grab the flower girl who is chasing the ring bearer.    Watch your step if they have one of those flimsy paper runners for the bride. It’s bad etiquette for the photog to rip the runner just before the bride enters.  Advise the bride to have the runner rolled out just before the flower girl if she is dropping rose petals.  Other wise it may not stand up to the traffic of the brides maids or of any guest/kids that must switch sides of the isle.

Now, the primary shot of the bride.  WAIT she’s wearing a LOT of white, your flashes ETTL will be fooled by the large area of white and cut the amount of light underexposing this critical shot. Quick, switch to Manual Flash and reset your aperture for the correct distance to the moving bride, or increase your flash compensation by a full stop. Now just as you get ready to take the shot, the bride stops and steps over to kiss her mom, you shoot and you just blew the highlights of moms dress because you were a stop hot on the flash and, got a nice shot of the back of her head blocking the brides face. (They didn’t say they were going to do this at the rehearsal)  Now she continues and stops at the groom’s position where her dad gives her hand to the groom, a nice touching special moment (did you reset the flash compensation.)

Everything in the last three paragraphs happened in about 1 to 2 minutes, so how are you doing so far? After dad gives the bride away, I usually turn off the flash and quietly make my way to position #2. Now its time to put in another set of fresh batteries.  Change the aperture, shutter speed, ISO and white balance so you can get some ambient light shots during the ceremony. Take several, you may have to use a tripod or adjust your color balance to get a good shot.  Try to get some shots of the B&G looking at each other, lighting the unity candle, maid of honor repositioning the train and the best man handing the ring to the groom and the exchanging of the rings.

Keep up with the ceremony and make sure you make it to position #3, the exit point at the end of the isle.  If you took the flash off of the camera, put it back on, power it up, zoom the lens to see if the flash zoom is communicating.  Change your ISO, aperture, shutter speed and color balance settings to capture the horse race about to come down the isle.  I know, they walked slow at the rehearsal but don’t count on it here.  They will be walking faster and closer together so now your flash is about to do it’s most demanding work, that’s why you need the fresh batteries.

Open the aperture and shoot when your subject is about 10 ft away. The opened aperture will create a smaller depth of field so make sure you get the distance correct. Pre focus on one of the seats and hope they are smiling with their eyes open when they get to your pre focused point.  This helps minimizes the recycle time for your flash so you can get more shots.  This is a real good reason to look into using battery packs. Battery Packs are heavy so get a shoulder strap or wear it on your belt. If you hang it on your belt, get a nice heavy duty pair of suspenders or you will be hiking up your pants every few steps. 

Lets see, we have one camera with a flash bracket and flash unit around your neck; about 7-10 lbs and you are going to take around 500-1000 shots today.  Have you ever curled that much weight that many times in one day? Tomorrow will be a Ben Gay day. You also have a left front pocket full of fresh flash and camera batteries, a right front pocket (or is it my left) full of used flash and camera batteries, a pocket bounce in your rear pocket, your memory cards secured in your jacket pocket, lens caps, pocket change, an ink pen and some business cards located elsewhere on your body and your are attempting to walk from position to position during the ceremony discreetly and without rattling and jingling when you move. You have to really love doing this. Where did I put my camera bag?  Why don’t I have an assistant?

Post Ceremony Formals: Get the wedding party to another room away from the guest.  An announcement should be made thanking the guest for being here and asking them to go to the reception area to greet the bride and groom.  After the guests have cleared the room (except parents grandparents and anyone else needed for the post ceremony formals) bring the wedding party back into the room.  Set your shutter speed to capture the ambient lighting of the room. (60-90/sec)  Set your color balance to Flash. Set your camera on a tripod so the distance to the group doesn’t change. Set your flash to manual and adjust the aperture to get the correct exposure (look at your histogram. If you move closer or away, change your aperture to get the correct exposure. Set your flash zoom angle to cover the group. Make the bride the most beautiful person there.  You are supposed to be a magician because you are the pro. 

Start with the B&G and grandparents, parents, aunts, uncles, cousins so they can go to the reception. Have someone watch the groomsmen so they don’t start undressing or leave for a smoke. You can shoot full lengths but in large groups, the faces will be small.  Group them and shoot from the waist up so you can see the faces better.  Most of the prints will be 4x6 so you will want to shoot each group tight but with a little extra room on the ends incase it has to be cropped to a 5x7 or 8x10.   Every shot doesn’t have to be full length, focus on the faces. 

Now it’s you and the wedding party.  If the flower girl and ring bearer aren’t taking a nap or crying, get them now. Then work through the wedding party group shots and release the groomsmen, bridesmaids, ushers and the preacher.  It’s time to get some shots of the B&G. Move them around to get a variety of backgrounds such as stained glass, candles, decorations and anything else interesting.  Check the distance from your flash to the subject, change the aperture accordingly.

If you didn’t get any individual shots of the Bride or Groom at the pre ceremony formals, get them now.   Remember, the guest maybe getting restless so get your shots but get them quickly.  The B&G may be getting bored with all of the shooting.  The bride is getting tired and hot and her feet hurt and the groom wants to get to the party (reception) to be with his buddies (he doesn’t yet realize the consequences of what just happened). When their smiles and body posture start to fade, it’s time to move on.  Speaking of moving on, you have to beat the B&G to the reception so you can capture the introduction and entry of the new Mr. and Mrs. So, grab your equipment and accessories, fold up your tripod, reset all of your camera settings and get moving.  And change your flash batteries, again. By now, you start to see the real value of an assistant. Keep running, everyone is waiting on you at this point.

The Reception:

The Reception: Have you met the DJ or bandleader?  They have the microphone and therefore make things happen according to when someone tells them.  Get in the loop.  You need to know or decide when and where the activities happen.  The reception was not included in the rehearsal, The cake, the toasting glasses, the tossing of the bouquet and garter, the first dance, the money dance and other activities traditional to the family need to be scheduled and started or the reception will go on forever and many of the guest will start leaving.  Stay on your toes and communicate with the DJ and the bride about the when’s and where’s.  By the way, the B&G are right behind you waiting on their queue to enter. Someone tell the DJ they are ready. 

The B&G Entry:
Ladies and gentlemen, it’s my great pleasure and honor to present to you for the first time anywhere, Mr and Mrs ______.  Here they come, shoot wide to get some of the guest waving and shaking hands.  Here we have a lot of smiling faces, tears, emotion, and a lot of backs of peoples heads hiding the faces.  If the ceiling is near white and less than about 12 feet high, use bounce flash to cover a greater area and to get a softer light. This will make those fresh batteries drain a lot faster but the photographs will be better. Don’t worry about wasting batteries; you can still use them later for shooting portraits or to power your IPOD or remote controls. Buy a battery tester. Bring it with you incase you mix up the left pocket batteries with the right pocket batteries.

Reception Formals: Don’t be pushy but try to get these out of the way so everyone can relax and enjoy the rest of the events.  Many of the guests are older and can’t stay very long due their health or medications.  Other guest will be leaving for a variety of reasons, work, dates, babysitter, bored, no more beer or BBQ.  Make sure you are the third most important person there; you need to have a clear view of the B&G during the cutting of the cake(s).  Some keep it clean, but you may have to break into hot pursuit of the bride trying to get revenge for the cake all over her face.

I stop chasing at 500ft. Besides, if we end up out side, I have to change all of my camera settings again. Now, for the traditional B&G drinking from the wine glasses while crossing their arms.  You will have to step in here and show them how to do it.  But let them try it a few times first; it’s kind of funny. Make sure the groom’s hand isn’t blocking the brides face.  Crop tight.  Most of these activities are for no other reason than for the photograph so take your time and pose them.  You normally have only one chance at the bouquet and garter toss unless they end up in the fountain or miss the group altogether. Get a shot of the Bride about to make the toss, (this is posed) and then (when your flash is fully charged) get a shot while the bouquet is in the air and the girls are all reaching out to make the valued catch.  This can be a really nice shot.  By this time the guys are coatless, tie less and clue less about any remaining wedding protocols. They usually just watch the garter fall to the ground.  

Food: Get all of the formal reception shots before anyone drips sauce or wine on the dresses. A chocolate fountain is a great place to get some shots of the kids dipping the strawberries in the flowing liquid chocolate, and all over their little faces.  I like to get several table shots before the eating starts while the tables are clean.  Watch out for those mirrors on the tables, they bounce a strong light back up into the faces if you are using a direct flash.  Speaking of mirrors; glass pictures, polished brass and other highly reflective objects will confuse your ETTL flash. Even the smallest reflection can result in an underexposed shot. Also, when a large part of your frame is white or light colored, (like a wedding dress) you may want to use Manual flash or at least change your flash compensation on your camera.

Dancing: The house lights just went down. How is your camera with noise at ISO 800 or 1600? Get several shots of the B&G looking into each other’s eyes and while they are talking to each other during the dance.  Do the same for the Bride and dad, the groom and mom.  You can play here, drop the shutter enough to capture the ambient light and allow some motion blur. The flash will freeze the subject while the ambient light on the subject shows some motion.  Remember the light from the flash only last about 1/1000 – 1/20,000 of a second depending on how close you are and the shutter will be open for 1/5 to 1/60 of a second.  You may have to change your ISO settings to get the effect you want.  Get lots of face shots of the bride, watch for the emotion.

The Guest: Get a few shots of people talking, dancing and having fun.  Anything embarrassing, illegal or that could be used in a court of law against the wedding party members or their families should be deleted.  (This could greatly reduce the number of shots at some events.)

The Great Escape: Fresh Batteries again (5th time) If you think they were coming down the isle fast after the ceremony, they will be all out running this time. Birdseed, rice, bubbles, beach balls and who knows what else will be filling the air between you and the couple during their departure.  Shoot a lot and shoot fast and pray one has both their faces visible and in focus.  So, do you use a greater depth of field (higher f/stop) to help with the focus (this uses more flash power and increased the flash cycle time) or stay close with a wide angle for better DOF and take several shots. Your ISO is still at 400 or 800 so that will also help on the flash recycle time. Still thinking about that battery pack? 

OK, now it’s over and I can carefully pack everything back into it’s proper place, in the camera bag I left in the chapel, which is now locked, until Monday.  You’ll only do that once.  My feet hurt, my suit is soaking wet from sweat and I think I’m developing a new condition, Wedding Photographers Elbow. After a few more of these, my right arm should look like Popeye’s. I’ll drive home with my only remaining arm, after I toss all my gear into the car somewhere.

As soon as possible, for me it’s when I get home, transfer all of the images from all of the memory cards to your computer and then burn them to a DVD.  No edits, no deletes, everything.  Now get some sleep.  

The Next Few Days:

The Work Flow: Create a folder on your computer titled the last name of the Groom and the date.  Under this folder, create other folders for each part of the wedding.  Use the section titles above for a starting point.  This will help you organize the large number of photos you took. 

After you have them organized;

1. Start eliminating the bad exposures, flash misfires, and out of focus images.  You should still have all of the original images on a DVD and on your memory cards before deleting anything.  I typically shoot multiple images of each formal group and the B&G so I have choices for the prints.

2. Create a folder under each of the above called Best.

3. Rotate the images so you can view them.

4. Identify the best images. Work through the folders one at a time.  Look for the best technically correct images and for those with story telling ability.  Sometime these are not the same.  The wedding photographs should make everyone look good and tell the story of the wedding.  A great shot with action, excellent exposure, focus, good balance of ambient light and flash but with the brides mouth contorted in mid word has to be sent to the cutting room floor.  Copy the best images to the Best folder. These will be the ones you edit and chose your prints from.

5. Once you have finished organizing, rotating and choosing the best, burn another DVD.

6. Now it’s time to do some serious editing. Crop the best images. Identify the subject of the image and crop to eliminate the distractions or anything that doesn’t complement the image.  Don’t crop too close to peoples faces unless their skin can hold up to close inspection.  Find out who paid for the wedding and your fees and treat them well.

7. Select the best of the best and copy them to a folder called Prints. 

8. Select the ones you like for 8x10’s.  Now do some of your digital darkroom magic like cropping and custom editing, touching up skin blemishes, cloning to remove or cover distracting components, vignettes, borders etc.

9. Finished?  DVD.

10. Get your prints made from a printer who has consistent results.  No point in spending several days editing and tweaking and have the new lab tech process everything on Auto, making unmonitored adjustments on your adjustments. Does the tech know if the chemicals are fresh and the temperature is correct? Does he care?

11. Delivery.  Take your time to get everything right.  You are not the 1-hour photographer.  3-6 weeks is totally acceptable as long as the work is worth the wait.  Some brides have an album, some don’t.  If you are delivering prints only, place then in a nice gift box, not the envelopes from the printer.  The delivery or presentation of the wedding photographs should be special.

12. If additional prints are purchased, have the bride take all of the orders and collect the money.

Still want to play?  It’s a lot more work than most people know, especially new wedding photographers.